<p>I found myself sitting in the basement of my girlfriend's house crying my eyes out feeling emotionally, mentally and financially broke with my 8 month old daughter in my arms. My relationship had ended in a devastating way and now I found myself asking...</p> How did I manage to get myself here? Why is this happening to me? What did I do to deserve this? What did I do to cause this? Why did this person hurt me? <p>These and other questions were swimming in my head. As most of us do, we seem to seek a spiritual source to ask for guidance and answers. Thinking we will know when or how the source will respond.</p> <p>I cried for a few days, drowning in my feelings. I felt alone and cold. You know those feelings you feel when you are sad. I felt like there was no one there to help me. Then a sudden thought! - What would my dad say to me if he saw me sitting here crying? I respected and loved my dad as the smartest, strongest and best man there ever was. Of course most women who have had a great relationship with their dads probably feel the same way. He had always helped me when I needed it but he had transitioned and he was no longer alive.</p> <p>All the sudden - there was an instant shift in my mind and I saw myself looking down at myself, sitting in the middle of the dark basement, with my swolen eyes and sloped shoulders crying. What would my dad say to me if he saw me now! Looking at myself from a different perspective I felt completely different. In an instant I could see him looking down at me and he would say something like "How long are you going to feel sorry for yourself before actually getting up and proving it to the world who you are and what you can survive?"</p> <p>At that moment, I stopped crying. After all who was I crying for? and why? To make myself feel better? I had unloaded all my emotions in what felt like gallons of tears. It was time. I looked at my daughter and knew that I had to CREATE a world for us. No one was going to hand down a new life for me. I had to create it. My daughter was 100% dependent on me and I had to transform this situation into an empowering one. And now that I had detached myself from the emotion, looking at the situation, the question was "How?"</p> <p>When you are going through tough times, you think you are the only one. Sometimes the pain seems to strong that you don't want to deal with it or find other things to drown it in - like alcohol or drugs. But that pain is there for a reason! We go through life's ups and downs. Everyone on this earth experiences something tragic or life changing. It is how we shift our mindset and look at things that make us decide how our future will be. </p> What could be the purpose of this event happening right now to me? How will this make me stronger? How will this get me to where I want to be? How can I use this as a success story to help others? <p>If you are reading this because you are at a point in your life you are looking for answers, the answer is there. Shift your thinking and see it in a new perspective. Respect your feelings and how they are making you feel right now because it is happening for a reason. The reason may not be clear to you right now, but the minute you look at it different, the minute you will start to transform your feelings. Each event will guide you through a different journey of learning and experiences.</p> <p>I utilize my past experiences and feel blessed that I experienced them fully. Even bad relationships or events. They have all helped me learn and become stronger and more understanding of life. Through these events, I can connect with people and help them at levels that might not have been possible had I not experienced them.</p> <p>There is help out there - just for you. Whether it is this story you read that might help you gain a new perspective or a friend or even someone who offers professional help, reach out and find it. There are no coincidences in life. You attract into your life the things that you seek. They may not come in the form you have asked or maybe certain events take place in order to get you to a different place. Trust that there is a reason. Taking ownership of your life and future is the most rewarding step you can take. Stop blaming others for your life's tragedy's because YOU are the only one who control YOU - your mind, your body, your spirit. In NLP, there is a saying - There is only one person that can be driving the bus - YOU. Where do you want to go in your life?  </p> <p>You can create your future. Remember smart people are not afraid to admit they need help. We ALL need someone's help, understanding and guidance at some point in our lives. Successful people find experienced experts to help them get the results they are seeking. You can look around and see how people are helping others see things in a new way! This is the secret! And it is all available to all of us. It is amazing to notice what is available to us when we look around and notice!  </p> <p>Thank you for reading and I hope by sharing a piece of me with you, I was able to provide you with just the right information you were seeking. I believe there is a reason for everything so if you have read this article thus far, you have received the right message you need - whatever it may be to you.</p> <p> </p>
<div style="margin:5px;padding:5px;border:1px solid #c1c1c1;font-size: 10px"><div class="text"><p>Ayda Walsh is the only practitioner,coach and trainer in the world who integrates Mind,Body,Spirit and Business coaching and training with advanced technologies to enahnce and improve results for individuals and businesses with guaranteed results. She is an owner of various businesses and works with a group of partners who are dedicated to helping transform individual lives and businesses.
She can be contacted via email at <a rel="nofollow" href="mailto:ayda@UltimateSuccessCoaching.com">ayda@UltimateSuccessCoaching.com</a>.
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